My 1st time haveing . with another guy . few questions?

I'm not nervouse abt fooling around with my hands and mouth(fig way to explain that part in short words) to me lil happy to try those. But whn comes to ? Does it hurt? Whn does it stop hurting? Wats the best lube? Can u do it without lube? If I'm giveing would I get stuff on my man hood. Is that normal? And any other questions I forgot