Being black + being a freak of nature.?

Okay so I have a HUGE dilemma. I am mostly black and I am proud of who I am BUT I have a huge problem with identifying with other black people. 1. I look kind of mixed. Most can't really put their finger on what I am. 2. I listen to like..stoner doom metal, black metal, and anarcho/crust punk. Now, OBVIOUSLY I am not the first black person in the world that listens to this type of music but I find that when I meet other black people that listen to "rock" or "metal" it's always some mainstream bullshit like KORN or SLIPNOT or GREEN DAY. This **** really erks my nerves (seeing as how I am kind of a music snob). I have no clue why I am such a metal nerd; I have never really been surrounded by people who like the same type of music as me. I have always been extremely individual and I never try to be anything but myself. On top of this, I am very patiete and I guess I don't really look like your stereotypical "metal nerd". I am 100 lbs 5'7" and I have a tiny frame and am pretty busty for my frame. My aren't HUGE or anything but quite a few people have made remarks about them. I don't really feel comfortable fitting this "pretty girl" stereotype because I would rather people dig me for our similarities than my looks but once people get to know me, they are pretty thrown off by my personality. People think that I am gross and crazy because I am an aspiring professional taxidermist and once they get past my looks, quickly lose interest. Of course I always attract either, 1. Rude annoying obnoxious black guys 2. white guys who ume that i am some black hipster chick that they can parade around with or 3. Future serial killers (usually metal/crust punk nerds). I have no interest in any of these types of guys. I just want to be around people who share my interest and aren't complete imbeciles. I want to be able to relate with people of my race without compromising who I really am. Is this possible? Are there others out there like me? :(